Becoming bisexual

So, I’m Pippa, and I’m bisexual. Hi!

I didn’t realise I was bi for a long moment. I’d always been friends with girls, but as a kid I never thought about girls in a romantic way… whereas I had ‘crushes’ on boys, who I obsessed over, and who I wanted to kiss and hold hands with and be with foreeeever. But the first time I watched a film or tv show and felt sexually attracted to the person on the screen, it was a chick – a scene in American Pie, I think! I assumed the feelings were because I wanted to “be” as attractive and sexy as the woman on screen, so I didn’t think too much about it!

It wasn’t until I was 18 that I properly started having sexual fantasies and desires, and more than half of them were about women. I was freaked out, but I was in denial and firmly convinced myself that the thoughts about women were just a phase, or just something I found sexually electrifying because it’s a bit ‘different’.

But by the time I was 21 I realised I was unhappy, that being in denial about my sexuality was affecting my relationships and that I couldn’t ignore it or create it go away.

I realised that, contrary to what I’d thought all my l

Becoming Bisexual

 

Peter McGraw invites two friends into the Solo Studio to discuss what appears to be an emerging shift: once heterosexual women embracing their bisexuality. His guests, Rachel and Taylor, discuss their exposure becoming bisexual in their thirties, and Peter presents data identifying a move in the number of people identifying as homosexual woman, gay, and bisexual.

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Becoming Bisexual

Welcome, Taylor.

Hey, Peter.

Welcome back, Rachel.

Hello.

I&#;ll tell you the origins of this show. I have noticed this based on my own personal experience with platonic friendships. Women who typically were identified as heterosexual own started dating women. Two of those women who told me this or disclosed this to me are you two. I think that there&#;s something going on here based upon personal anecdotes and paying attention to the world. I wanted to do an episode to explore this and you both were kind enough to say yes.

You did treat me to the recovery center in arrange to twist my arm to come here.

I fed you too. Taylor has left out. She&#;s got neither the recovery center nor the food.

To come about in the future.

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Being Bi, You Can Still "Pick A Side"

“You’re actually bisexual?” an older recent friend of mine asked during dinner last week.

“Living and breathing,” I replied, bracing myself for the inevitable interrogation ahead.

“Okay, can I ask you something?” he said, to which I begrudgingly nodded.

My ally then launched into a long story about how he had a emotional tryst with a married queer man about 20 years ago. The male explained to him that he was in evidence, bi, and while he loves his wife and kids, he feels he made a huge being mistake. He would contain preferred to have a gay lifestyle — going to gay bars, virtual dating men, having a crew of queer friends, and having the occasional sexual encounter with a chick. (Instead, unfortunately, he cheats on his wife during business trips.)

My friend then asked, “Do you ever feel compelled to choose a side?”

Yes, I perform, and the truth is, I already have. While I am still bi, and will always be bi — my lifestyle, work, friends, mannerisms, and the spaces I touch most comfortable in are gay.

It’s a bizarre feeling because when you “pick a side”. You are, of course, still attracted to both genders. As we all comprehend by now, you’re still bisexual in a monoga

How bisexual erasure makes it tough to reach out

I’m Jemma Stovell, a Recovery Coach for Step Together. I am many things &#; some I’ve always known. I’m creative, I’m stubborn, I’m kind, I’m curious and I’m proudly colourful and happy to display my personality outwardly. Later in life I’ve also realised I don’t think about some things in the same way many others do. Partly because they weren’t talked about, or widely understood, as they were for me when I was growing up. One is that I was born with ADHD and the other is that I’m bisexual &#; someone who is emotionally, romantically, or sexually attracted to more than one sex, gender, or gender identity, though not necessarily simultaneously, in the similar way, or to the same degree. Both were very misrepresented in the 90’s, which is something the young me didn’t realise.

Bi erasure and heteronormativity

The rhetoric when I was a kid was that it was normal to experiment with your sexuality, but that it was a phase. My friends might practise kissing their female friends, so they were ready for when they found a partner. Dating them? Not considered. If you liked boys, well you’re not a lesbian are you? Gross. Gay? An

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